“The cure for everything is salt water – sweat, tears, or the sea.” – Isak Dinesen
How do you mark passage? In the late Autumn a friend of mine lost his father-in-law Joe to cancer. They were very fond of each other and on his death bed Joe requested from his son-in-law to take care of his widow. My friend is a salt of the earth guy, not big on words or sentimentality but gave a knowing nod to the request and in some way comforted a dying man to know that the people he cared about would be supported.
On the day of the funeral the son-in-law woke early and excused himself from attending the church ceremony and instead went to the cathedral of the forest with an axe and a woodsplitter and for several hours before and many hours after the formal goodbyes ceremony we call a funeral he fulfilled part of his promise and he cut, split and stacked 3 chords of wood for his mother-in-law.
That Winter she was surrounded by much more than the warmth or the hearth. I guess my friend thought the best tribute to Joe was to be has arms and legs, or in this case leg because my friend has a game leg injured in an old accident and he walks with a cane to support his balance on his withered limb. The cure for sorrow may well be salt water — tears or sweat.
How do you remember those who give their best to life and help others live?